What Does a Confident Person Look Like?
They don’t pretend fear doesn’t exist
Removing fear is impossible. It’s a fallacy to think otherwise. The confident person takes a deep breath and says. “I need a minute to calm my nervous system and recalibrate.”
They trust in their higher power to take the steering wheel while they rest. Go for a walk, meditate, read a book, take a hot bath, or watch a hockey game—whatever can burn off cortisol and switch from sympathetic to parasympathetic (the vagus nerve).
They understand the moment of fear and refuse to complain. Feeling negative energy will only deepen their fear. Refusing to complain does NOT mean stuffing the emotions so deep that they get stuck in illness. They face the fear head-on (sometimes alone, sometimes with a therapist or coach). They rarely lean on friends ( no office bestie, but you will judge, and a confident person will only confide in a solution-based person).
They keep their promises
Confidence grows from trust — especially self-trust. Confident people keep commitments to themselves, even the small ones.
When a person had “done them wrong”, they do not punish them. They do not lash out. They do not freak out. They do not get even.
They calmly do what they promised and walk away. They do not make threats, they do not say anything that they won’t actually do.
It not about the other person, or making them happy, or pleasing them. It’s about pleasing themselves. I always do what I say, regardless of what is done to me. It’s a life rule to live by.
They feed their minds.
Instead of drowning in negativity, they invest in reading, learning, and surrounding themselves with people who lift them up. They know their environment shapes their belief.
They also know learning never ends. A person rooted in deep spirituality knows that everything they learn in this lifetime, every value, virtue and skill is taken to the other side. They will learn until their last breath.
They also know that the most important course is :
Learning about self. Who are you? What makes you tick? What lights you up? And they allow fear to surface regularly and overcome it. They do that through learning and making their minds strong. Just like making your muscles strong. A confident person strengthens their connection to self, higher power, and know that they are a soul who uses their minds. They do not allow their minds to control them.
They take action daily
Confidence shows in motion. They don’t wait until they feel “ready.” They break goals into steps and act, even imperfectly.
They know that taking action, doing something, is better than nothing. Failing is better than sitting still.
They trust that their brains will figure out a way, no matter how many times they have to try and try again. They do not give up. They meditate, pray, or play a game of sports to fuel their brains to allow the right message to come up for a solution when they are stuck.
